Do you use “good girl” or “good boy” to compliment in class? I have taken it out of my vocabulary and here’s why…
It doesn’t mean anything! You have heard a million times, when complimenting, to point out the ACTION or gesture of the child, right? Right!
For example: One of your dancers shares a prop with another dancer in class.
You could say: “Good girl, Maddie”
You could say: “Maddie, Thank you for being such a nice friend and sharing your bean bag with Lucy.”
Which one has more meaning?
Saying “good” means there are only two choices. A good girl or a bad girl, a good boy or a bad boy. If they are doing something bad, the action they are doing is bad or wrong, not the child.
When I hear parents or babysitters saying it, I cringe a little, then always over compensate and praise the action of the child.
I’m convinced omitting this phrase, makes a huge difference in the self esteem of my littles!
What do you think? Have you omitted this phrase? Will you now? I would love to hear your thoughts.